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Why is my child refusing to go to school?

These anxieties can stem from a number of things such as:

  • Mental health issues such as anxiety - in particular separation anxiety.
  • Trauma
  • Low self-esteem
  • Bullying
  • The environment itself
  • Autism spectrum disorders (ASD)

School refusal can happen at any stage, however mostly occurs when children start school or transition into secondary school.

What can I do to help?

There are plenty of options available to help you if you think your child might be experiencing school refusal.

Speak to your school

  • Talk to a teacher or the mental health lead at school and work with them around the issue. It's important to maintain a good relationship with them during this time. They can help agree on things the school can do such as arranging flexible start times to avoid the morning rush.
  • If you have concerns about bullying, speak to the school about their anti-bullying policy.
  • Speak to your school and ask them to assess your child if you think there may be an unidentified SEND need causing the anxiety.
  • You'll need to work with the school to help your child - particularly with any support plans they put in place.

Find help to support your child's emotional wellbeing

You can find information and services to support your child or young person on our Mental Health and Wellbeing page

Who can support me?

You should start by speaking to your GP. They might be able to refer you to services such as CAMHS or PALMS.

Mental health services

CYPMHS (Child and young people's mental health services) works with children and young people who have difficulties with their emotional wellbeing or mental health difficulties.

PALMS (Positive behaviour, Autism, Learning Disability and Mental health Service) helps children and young people aged 0-19 who have a learning disability and/or Autistic Spectrum Disorder.

You can find more information and services to support emotional wellbeing on our Mental Health and Wellbeing page

Local Authority Attendance Officers

Local Authority Attendance Officers work as part of our Children’s Services. They have a responsibility to make sure parents are fulfilling their legal duty to ensure their child attends school regularly and punctually.

Local Authority Attendance Officers (LAAO’s) will always try to work with parents to resolve any difficulties that are preventing a child’s regular attendance at school. Their involvement is a process of assessment and planned targeted interventions to address issues and improve attendance. 

It's natural to be concerned if your case gets referred to a  LAAO, however they can work in partnership with you and the school. They can make suggestions like having you stay with your child until they've settled in class.

Attendance team

Schools may make a referral to the attendance team if attendance is low and the majority of absences are unauthorised. However you can contact them for support too.

ESMA

The Education Support for Medical Absence (ESMA) team support pupils who have had, or are expecting to have, significant time off school due to a physical or mental health condition. Their aim is to help children continue their education around their needs and work towards getting them back into school life.

Independent organisations who can help

Provide impartial and confidential information, advice and support to parents and carers of children with special educational needs and disabilities (SEND)

NFIS aims to support children and their families struggling with school attendance, and raise awareness of their experiences.

Hertfordshire based support and advice for parents, carers and kids from the NHS

Hertfordshire based support and advice for teens from the NHS

Page was last updated on: 19/09/2024 15:27:40

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